changes are inevitable in our life, it depends 10% how you take it and 90% how you make it

 

Changes are inevitable in our lives; it depends 10% on how you take it and 90% on how you make it.  

Change is the only constant in life. Whether it's personal growth, career shifts, relationships, or unexpected challenges, change shapes our journey. While we often hear that "life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it," the same applies to change.  The way we perceive change (the 10%) matters, but what truly defines our success and happiness is how we actively shape it (the 90%). In this article, we’ll explore why change is inevitable, how mindset plays a role, and actionable ways to turn change into an opportunity.

Change in our life will happen—whether you thrive depends on your response.

- 10% is your reaction (mindset).

- 90% is your action (strategy, effort, and persistence).

It is well known that change is inevitable in life. You are simply aware of the degree of uncertainty that exists in the game that is life. When it changes too quickly, it becomes problematic. Unexpected changes are difficult to manage and will undoubtedly cause issues.  The word is 'accept". Boost your capacity for acceptance. It all comes down to the mind; if you train it properly, you will observe the effects for yourself. You'll feel lot better if you gradually begin to accept things as they are. 

 1. Emotional Attachment to the Past 

We often associate our identity, happiness, and security with past experiences. Change forces us to let go, which can feel like losing a part of ourselves.  

- Leaving a job you’ve had for years >> "Who am I without this role?" 

- Ending a long-term relationship >> "Will I ever find love again?" 

- Moving away from home >> "I’ll never have the same comfort again."

Grief for the past can make us resistant, even when change in life is necessary.

 2. Self-Doubt and Fear of Failure 

Change often requires new skills, adjustments, and risks. This triggers:

- Imposter syndrome ("Am I good enough for this new role?") 

- Fear of failure ("What if I can’t handle this?") 

- Comparison ("Others seem to adapt better than me.")  

These doubts create mental resistance, making us procrastinate or self-sabotage or loss of self confidence.

It's clear that you're not entirely content with reality if the idea of altering makes you want to scream. You must alter your personal reality as a result.  As you are, you're not truly happy. You wouldn't yell or ask this question if you felt intimidated by change. Determine the reasons for your discomfort with change and make it your long-term objective. I would start by making a list of simple, obvious improvements that will improve your life and then accepting those changes.  Make a positive habit.  Get rid of an undesirable habit.  Set aside time to pursue your passions. While many changes are undoubtedly something to look forward to, some changes are actually dangerous. Change is a natural part of life, yet it often triggers stress, anxiety, and even fear. Whether it's a new job, a breakup, moving to a new city, or even small daily shifts, change can unsettle us deeply.  

Change is generally resisted by human nature.  It's uncomfortable to change.  Change can be stressful regardless of its effects, whether positive or negative.  Sometimes we become so accustomed to our pessimism that we refuse to embrace change, even when it is for the better.  We continue to focus on the negative.  We must learn to be good finders.  We must concentrate on the good things in life.  We must learn to be good finders.  We must concentrate on the good things in life.  Instead of focusing on what is wrong, let's start examining what is right in a person or circumstance.

Our conditioning has made us so adept at identifying flaws and searching for problems that we fail to see the bright side.  Fault finders will always find flaws, even in paradise.  The majority of individuals find what they're looking for.   That is what they receive if they are searching for happiness, friendship, and the good things in life.  They will get what they want if they want arguments or apathy.  Being cautious and seeking out the good does not entail ignoring flaws.

Changes in our life are part of life; it is going to happen whether you like or dislike it. There has always been change. There will always be change.   Change is constant from the beginning of the universe's expansion and the creation of new subatomic particle combinations until it eventually transforms into something else.   More locally, a few events that have shaped world history over the last few centuries continue to have a significant impact on the world today.  Greed, piracy, the slave trade, and the looting of other people's resources were the foundations of empires. Those who exploited the most in the name of the king or emperor were considered heroes and received substantial rewards.

First thing in the morning, read or listen to something uplifting.  We feel calm and our subconscious is open after a restful night's sleep.  It establishes the mood for the day and puts us in the ideal state of mind to make each day productive.  We must make a deliberate effort to incorporate constructive ideas and actions into our lives if we want to see change.  Every day, work on thinking and doing positively until it becomes second nature.

Those who inherited their trading parents' riches established businesses based on the same ideas, which developed into all-consuming behemoths that produced everything from food to banks.  For the sake of the owners, the new monarchs, these organizations persisted in taking advantage of everything and everyone.  They made use of their wealth to purchase higher education that was unavailable to others in order to secure their place of authority in a world that was becoming more democratic.  Everything changed: new empires were established (such as Apple, Google, Microsoft, and a few others) and people were able to learn about what was going on in the rest of the world.  

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Changes Are Inevitable: 10% How You Take It, 90% How You Make It 

Change is the only constant in life. Whether it's personal growth, career shifts, relationships, or unexpected challenges, change shapes our journey. While we often hear that "life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it," the same applies to change.   The way we perceive change (the 10%) matters, but what truly defines our success and happiness is how we actively shape it (the 90%). In this article, we’ll explore why change is inevitable, how mindset plays a role, and actionable ways to turn change into an opportunity.  

 1. Why Change Is Inevitable 

From nature’s seasons to technological advancements, change is a universal law. In our personal lives, we experience: 

- Career shifts (job changes, promotions, layoffs) 

- Relationships (new friendships, breakups, marriages) 

- Personal growth (shifting priorities, new hobbies, self-discovery) 

- External factors (economic changes, global events)  

Resisting change leads to stress, while embracing it fosters growth. 

 

 2. The 10%: How You Perceive Change 

Your initial reaction to change sets the tone. Two people can face the same situation—one sees a crisis, the other an opportunity.  

 Fixed vs. Growth Mindset (Carol Dweck’s Theory) 

- Fixed Mindset: "This is terrible; I can’t handle it." 

- Growth Mindset: "This is challenging, but I’ll learn from it."  

Example: Losing a job can feel like a failure OR a chance to explore new passions.  

Tip: Practice reframing thoughts. Instead of "Why is this happening to me?" ask "What can I learn from this?"  

 3. The 90%: How You Actively Shape Change 

Perception is just the start—action determines outcome. Here’s how to take control:  

 A. Accept & Adapt 

- Acknowledge emotions but don’t dwell in resistance. 

- Ask: "What’s within my control?"  

 B. Set Clear Intentions 

- Instead of fearing change, define what you want from it. 

- Example: Moving cities? Decide if it’s for career growth, adventure, or a fresh start.  

 C. Take Small, Consistent Steps 

- Big changes feel overwhelming—break them down. 

- Learning a new skill? Start with 20 minutes daily.  

 D. Leverage Support Systems 

- Seek mentors, friends, or communities going through similar changes. 

- Collaboration accelerates progress. 

 

 E. Reflect & Adjust 

- Regularly assess: "Is this change aligning with my goals?" 

- Pivot if needed—flexibility is key.  

 4. Real-Life Examples of Turning Change into Opportunity 

- Steve Jobs: Fired from Apple, founded Pixar, returned to revolutionize tech. 

- J.K. Rowling: Used rejection as fuel to write Harry Potter.  

- Ordinary Heroes: People who turned health crises into wellness advocacy. 

 

 5. Conclusion: Be the Architect of Your Change 

Change will happen—whether you thrive depends on your response. 

- 10% is your reaction (mind-set). 

- 90% is your action (strategy, effort, and persistence). 

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Change is a natural part of life, yet it often triggers stress, anxiety, and even fear. Whether it's a new job, a breakup, moving to a new city, or even small daily shifts, change can unsettle us deeply.  

But why does change disturb the mind so much? And how can we better cope with it? 

 

Let’s explore the psychological and emotional reasons behind our resistance to change—and how to navigate it with greater ease.  

 1. The Brain’s Resistance to Change: The Comfort of Familiarity 

Our brains are wired to seek safety, predictability, and routine. This is rooted in evolution—our ancestors survived by sticking to familiar patterns and avoiding unpredictable dangers. 

 - The amygdala (the brain’s fear center) perceives change as a potential threat, triggering stress responses. 

- Cognitive dissonance occurs when new information conflicts with existing beliefs, causing mental discomfort.  

Example: Even a positive change (like a promotion) can feel stressful because it disrupts your familiar routine. 

 

 2. Fear of the Unknown: Loss of Control 

One of the biggest reasons change disturbs us is the fear of uncertainty. When we can’t predict outcomes, our mind imagines worst-case scenarios.  

- "What if I fail?" 

- "What if things get worse?" 

- "What if I regret this decision?"  

This fear stems from our need for control. When change happens—whether chosen or forced—we feel like we’re losing grip on our lives. 

 

 3. Emotional Attachment to the Past 

We often associate our identity, happiness, and security with past experiences. Change forces us to let go, which can feel like losing a part of ourselves. 

 

- Leaving a job you’ve had for years >> "Who am I without this role?" 

- Ending a long-term relationship >> "Will I ever find love again?" 

- Moving away from home >> "I’ll never have the same comfort again."  

Grief for the past can make us resistant, even when change in the life is necessary. 

 

 4. Self-Doubt and Fear of Failure 

Change often requires new skills, adjustments, and risks. This triggers: 

- Imposter syndrome ("Am I good enough for this new role?") 

- Fear of failure ("What if I can’t handle this?") 

- Comparison ("Others seem to adapt better than me.")  

These doubts create mental resistance, making us procrastinate or self-sabotage. 

 

 5. Social and Environmental Pressures 

We don’t live in a vacuum—society, family, and peers influence our reactions to change. 

 

- Fear of judgment ("What will people think if I quit my stable job?") 

- Cultural expectations ("I should be married by now.") 

- Fear of disappointing others ("My parents won’t approve.")  

External pressures make change feel heavier than it needs to be. 

 

 6. The Illusion of Permanence 

We often trick ourselves into believing that things will stay the same forever. When change happens, it shatters this illusion, leading to: 

- Shock ("I never saw this coming.") 

- Denial ("This can’t be happening.") 

- Bargaining ("If I just ignore it, maybe things will go back to normal.") 

 

Accepting that nothing is permanent is the first step to adapting.  

 How to Reduce the Mental Disturbance of Change 

Now that we understand why change feels unsettling, here’s how to manage it better: 

 

 1. Reframe Change as Growth 

Instead of thinking, "This is scary," ask: 

- "What can I learn from this?" 

- "How can this make me stronger?"  

 2. Focus on What You Can Control 

You can’t stop change, but you can control: 

- Your mindset 

- Your actions 

- Your support system  

 3. Take Small Steps 

Big changes feel overwhelming—break them into manageable tasks.  

 4. Practice Self-Compassion 

It’s okay to feel uneasy. Accept your emotions without judgment.  

 5. Seek Support 

Talk to friends, mentors, or therapists to gain perspective. 

 

 Final Thought: Change Is Not the Enemy—Resistance Is 

Change disturbs the mind because it challenges our sense of security. But growth happens outside the comfort zone.  

Instead of fearing change, ask: 

 "What’s the worst that can happen?" (Often, it’s not as bad as you imagine.) 

"What’s the best possible outcome?" (This shifts your focus to opportunity.)  

The more you embrace change, the less power it has to disturb you.  

 Your Turn 

How do you handle change? Does it usually excite or scare you? Share your thoughts in the comments!